Just Like Riding a Bike
I used to have a lot of fun when I was a little younger. I’ve always been sex-positive and leaned towards polyamory. This combination led to a lot of wild nights with some incredible people. As I got a little older, and married an amazing man, I settled down. I became a 23-year-old housewife. It probably would have been good for me, but our marriage didn’t last. Now, having gotten divorced and having the rebound relationship that only recently ended, I was worried that I would not be able to just date.
Being single can be a tough skill to learn. How to have a conversation with someone you just met. How to make a lasting impact. How to not show those really awkward pieces of yourself for a little while. Most importantly, how to not only be okay alone, but prefer it.
Turns out, some of it is easier than I remember. I’m more confident now. Knowing I’m staying single makes me feel less pressure. When you’re confident and pressure free, the amount of phone numbers shoved in your hand is directly affected. Which in turn has affected the amount of people I can call friends! Being alone is harder to do. And I’m not doing that, yet. I am staying out of romantic relationships. I’m really starting to love life again. Of course, I still prefer to wake up alone, but it’s so nice to know that these beautiful people are out there.
I wasn’t expecting this. When I started this year of making an effort to live more, I was thinking of ways of changing the world around me… quietly and very alone. I think I’ve started to make a little impact, and I’m doing it surrounded by friends new and old.
Professional Driver, Closed Course 